20+ years of meditating, here is what I have learned…
10 transmissions that stuck
by Jennifer Finch, LPC, NCC, SEP
January 16, 2023
After two plus decades of sitting, standing, walking, contemplating, learning, teaching, sharing, experiencing meditation of all kinds, the positive transmissions are conclusive, instilled, embodied and carried within me every moment of every day.
Whether you choose to take 5 minutes a day, or 40, take a crash course, go on a weekthun, a long retreat or take a sabbatical and head to a mountain cliff for a year, the beginning is where you start. And we all start where we are. But if you dedicate YOU to YOURSELF, however your practice unfolds, you will discover that life is joyous, beautiful and full of miracles. We can transform our pain and suffering and cultivate benevolent change. There is a path to end our suffering. Here is what I have learned so far…
Finding your True Nature is an act of LOVE.
Living from substantial confidence
Growth is stretching your emotional capacity.
tolerating discomfort, pain and suffering gives us stability.
We must take responsibility for our own lives.
owning our part in all of it is a must.
Resistance is part of the process.
WHEN WE TRY TO KILL OFF OUR STRONG EGO-IDENTITY (THE PART THAT DOESN’T KNOW WHO IT IS WITHOUT OUR PAIN) IT WILL INEVITABLy COME UP WITH CLEVER, CRAFTY TACTICS TO RESIST LETTING GO OF OUR PAIN.
There is NO SAFETY.
NOT ABSOLUTELY, 100%. YOU DON’T FIND YOUR GROUND BY SCANNING FOR SAFETY. WHEN YOU FIND GROUND IN INSTABILITY, WHEN YOU SEE THAT LIFE IS CONSTANTLY FLUCTUATING YOU PARADOXICALLY FIND STABILITY AND CULTIVATE AN INTERNAL SENSE OF SAFETY
External sources of comfort are setting you up to fail.
WHEN WE REACH OUTSIDE OF OURSELVES FOR COMFORT WE HAVE NO ABILITY TO SELF-SOOTHE.
Knowing where you are is essential.
we miss our lives if we believe there is some future moment that is going to bring us happiness.
March to your own beat.
WE OFTEN NEED TO REBEL AGAINST ALIGNMENT TO OUR WORLD AND THOSE IN IT TO DISCOVER OUR TRUE NATURE.
Becoming anti-fragile isn’t bullying ourselves into self-love, love or enlightenment.
we learn more graciously out of respect, and gentleness. be kind. BE RESPECTFUL.
Do the work.
THERE IS NO QUICK FIX, MAGIC PILL, ONE WEEK SEMINAR, ONLINE CLASS, SELF-HELP BOOK, NERVOUS SYSTEM EXERCISE OR LIFE-HACK.
